Dear Jumai,
I’m not much of a storyteller, but I’ll try my best to explain. There’s this neighbour of mine who dresses very modestly, the kind of woman who wears loose clothes that hide her figure completely. One day, we had a conversation, and one thing led to another, and she came over to my apartment. I live on the fifth floor, while she stays on the fourth.
She cooked Egusi soup and Poundo and brought some for me. She sat down, asked for the TV remote, and we started watching a movie. At the time, I was smoking weed. I honestly had no intention of anything happening between us, as we live in the same building and I also have a girlfriend. I didn’t want a situation where my girlfriend would be around, and my neighbour would suddenly want to visit.
She chose to watch 365 Days, and at some point during the movie, things became suggestive. I made a playful comment, and from there, the situation escalated. Although I initially brushed it off, things quickly became physical.
We ended up sleeping together that night, and since then, it has happened repeatedly. Now I’m starting to wonder if I’m making a mistake, especially considering that we both have partners and live in the same apartment building. John
Dear John,
What started as excitement is slowly turning into a situation that could cost you more than you realise. You’re involved with someone who lives in the same building, and both of you already have partners. That alone makes this risky emotionally, socially, and practically.
Affairs that are this close to home rarely stay hidden for long, and when they unravel, they can become messy very quickly. Beyond the thrill, ask yourself what you’re actually building. If you value your girlfriend, this is the moment to pause and reassess your choices. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, be honest about that instead of maintaining two situations at once.
Continuing like this may feel exciting now, but it could damage your reputation, your relationship, and even your living environment. Sometimes discipline protects us from long-term regret.
