Dear Jumai,
I used to be a nonchalant playboy, but I changed for this girl because I thought she was worth it. Then last month, I discovered she had been sleeping with her married ex. As I type this, she still went to meet him. Her birthday is approaching, and the amount she’s asking me for is absurd, so I refused to give it.
We already had the talk about her seeing this man. I confronted her, she apologised, and promised to stop. But here we are again, with her sneaking around, and she’s not even good at being sneaky, because I caught her again.
This time, I’ve decided to stay silent. She won’t listen, she’s stubborn, and I don’t want to keep repeating myself. Still, I fear for my health because of the risks involved. I love her deeply, but I know that the best thing to do is leave. God knows I feel stuck. John
Dear John,
John, you’ve already recognised the truth: you love this woman, but she keeps betraying your trust. No matter how much you care for her, love alone cannot build a healthy relationship when loyalty and respect are missing.
The fact that you fear for your health is a sign that you need to prioritise yourself. Staying silent won’t change her; it only leaves you carrying pain in silence. You’ve made sacrifices by changing your lifestyle, but she has not honoured that effort.
Walking away may feel like losing something precious, but in reality, you’ll be reclaiming your peace and safety. Deep down, you already know what you should do, and the strength to let go will come once you accept that love without trust is not worth the risk.
